Dating my ex girlfriend again
We know our backstories will be tangled and intertwined.
In general, allow your friend and your sweetheart to decide how much contact they want with each other, and don't push them to associate if they're not into it.
Queer communities are often small and insular, and once you've found one, you tend to hold on to it for dear life.
It's difficult to meet people you're romantically interested in beyond an already-defined circle, and outside of your city's queer scene, most people you run into are likely to be straight.
Lots of people have told me unequivocally that they would never date a friend's ex.
They wholeheartedly believe that it's wrong, disrespectful, and if a friend did that to them, they'd never talk to that person again.
Set aside time for each of them and honor it — don't drag your lover along on girls' night out (not even if your lover is a lady; queer chicks are 4. Don't ask your man if you're prettier/smarter/better at Scrabble than his last girlfriend.