Transition from friends to dating
If you’re hoping to go the distance with your best friend, you’ll already know if your future aspirations align, which will allow you to prepare for the possible path ahead. There’s nothing more awkward – or in some cases, upsetting – than discussing your partner’s dating history.
The question of our dating came up like this: Jake and I had gone back to his apartment for a nightcap after having dinner together ... But he told me he'd been mulling it over for a while, and he was serious about wanting to give things a go. And not having Jake in my life seemed unimaginably painful. Maybe incompatible phermones are to blame--who knows?It may not have been obvious from the start, but your best friend could just be the man or woman of your dreams.Once you get past the initial awkwardness of transitioning from friends to more than friends, everything should be smooth sailing, right? If you have decided that romance might just be on the cards for you and your best friend, it is important to proceed with care. If you play your cards right, you might have yourself a future life partner.THE FACTORS THAT SHOULD BE IN PLAY BEFORE YOU START DATING YOUR BEST FRIEND 1) A mutual (and intense) desire--ON BOTH SIDES--to give it a whirl.2) The LACK of some major precipitating event.By that, I mean: Think twice before getting involved with your best friend if either of you are motivated by feelings other than love, longing and desire.
(Dear me, I'm even tearing up a little as I write this.)Anyway, the experience has me convinced that BOTH friends need to feel pretty strong chemistry before they move from being platonic pals to romantic partners.